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Tim Who

We choose our friends not based on who they are but rather who we are when we are around them.

I believe the answer is they (and you) are pretending to be friends. And when I say pretending I don't mean your hearts aren't in it. I'm saying that if they allowed you to be you, they wouldn't be that nice to you. Everything works as long as you both keep pretending everything is OK. No it's not.

Stop pretending. Be yourself and IF.... By being yourself you are no longer welcome in their lives then accept it and politely keep your distance. Times too short to pretend you're something you're not and any relationship based on such a falsehood is un-fulfilling.

I'm gay I swear, I burp, I fart, I eat too much and I smoke pot. These are all part of who I am and I haven't time for anyone that doesn't accept me for who I am. Even if I'm related to them. Especially if I'm related to them!

But that's just my opinion, other opinions may vary.


I agree about choosing our friends. But we don't choose our family. This is his family, and his father isn't that well. Starting an argument or creating a rift, of which he too would be the victim, just isn't on my agenda. For me, it's a choose your battles issue. And as it doesn't really affect my day-to-day existence to be polite and wear a mask when I see these people once a year, I do. Because it would definitely negatively impact my life to get into it with them. And his life. And that's not fair. They certainly know I disagree, but I'm not going to waste my breath on a battle I can't win, and create an atmosphere of negativity around myself when it accomplishes nothing.

And I'm GLAD you come here and express your honest opinion, Tim! This is why I like you! :)

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